By Diana Morais
Be master of mind rather than mastered by mind
– Zen Proverb
We have all suffered from this syndrome at one point in our lives. It can be provoked by an external factor or by a group of associated thoughts and emotions processed internally. It can occur in all phases of our lives and the cure is intangible, but we all have access to it: change.
The “I don’t know what I want” Syndrome can also be diagnosed as IDKWTD (I don’t know what to do) and although we see it more attenuated in adolescence and adulthood, its symptoms start in our mother’s womb. After a certain period of time, the external environment becomes unsustainable. We are not rational and emotionally capable of taking the decision, so we go through a traumatic change to see ourselves from a new perspective and with new functions.
During adulthood we don’t pay much attention to the internal factors, because we have labelled most situations and people. We want to contain the anxiety of now knowing. Nevertheless, this feeling of security doesn’t last. It is again provoked by the outside and we are faced with other options that cause the IDKWIW Syndrome. We always have the answer, we are just not sure if we are ready to make the effort required to go through with it. We will have to build new associations, cognitive and emotionally, and sometimes that means giving up certain roles we played in the past, or we will have to play these roles in a different way than we expected.
In order to avoid a strong reaction from this “syndrome”, we can train ourselves in small day-to-day decisions by aligning our thoughts, emotions and behaviour. Either we change and face the new challenge with commitment and harmony, or we reframe it within ourselves. Let’s just not ignore the internal or external change because we can get consumed by the situation and miss the whole purpose of the process: enjoy living.
Change now and live a different effect.