By Diana Morais
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are” E.E. Cummings
To decide is a rare gem nowadays, since most os us live on autopilot being directed by someone or something else other than ourselves. We think that to decide rationally and logically is to really use our free-will, but these are only temporary choices based on our conditioned behaviour.
Our survival intelligence is based on a relationship dynamic that we created when we were still babies, and it was effective with our parents or caregivers. The bad news is that this “fingerprint” of relationships cannot ever be erased, and we unconsciously make “choices” based on this childish prism. The good news is that when we realize who we really are, we learn how to manage our inner voice that seems to have life of its own, and we are able to reestablish balance and harmony in our lives.
It is impossible to change if we do not know what we are really doing and we live in an eternal “Groundhog Day”, movie where the character of Bill Murray relives the same day over and over again. He only gets out of this endless day when he changes his attitude and he truly exposes himself in his inter-personal relationships. When he wants to take advantage and manipulate others, the same situations are only consequences that he creates himself. The art of deciding goes beyond certain pretexts we use to convince ourselves to live something more or less. To live what is best, it takes courage to expose ourselves and to harmonize with the result. This is the real space for change we can create in a sustainable way in our lives.
First to harmonize with who you really are, and then you can become who you really want to be.
Change now and live different effect.