By Diana Morais
Is a couple’s relationship supposed to be a binding contract?
Clause I: I pay for our vacations and now you have to do whatever I want.
Clause II: I assume this relationship socially as long as it is convenient for me.
Clause III: I put up with your family so you have to accept the way I am.
It is shocking to see how many adults submit themselves to a commitment that only “favours” one side of the parties. The same adult that is financially independent and cares for his/her offspring, puts him/herself in situations that don’t add up. It doesn’t make sense to go on vacation with your other half and come back with a cold or feeling worst than before. Relationships either bring you up or down, but it is never the other person who does that to you. People interfere up to where you allow them to. So instead of acting as a victim, look at the big picture and set boundaries. Keeping scores for who has more leverage in the relationship can be harmful, and the result will never be a win-win, but a rather unpleasant materialization of mistreating yourself for so long.
Change now and live a different effect.